As promised, January's Sister Wives Book/Wine Club update is here. Being 4 30-something-organization-heart so full- moms, we chose to read A Simplified Life by Emily Ley. I have always had a thing for planners and to-do lists, but more recently have found myself following alongside Emily Ley in her blogs, feeling like I am able to relate more and more. While most who follow her aren't super successful motivational life coaches, she becomes super relatable. She talks about her challenges of balancing the everyday; not sugar coated, no frills, her voice comes off real. She doesn't claim to portray a fake always-happy family. Balancing being a wife, a working mom of young babes all while keeping true to yourself is hard.
I am a registered nurse by profession, working and caring for the most fragile preemies and newborns our nation sees. While it wasn't always easy, it was a job that filled me with a sense of purpose. I was one of those girls who couldn't wait to become a mom when I grew up. Finally, our lives settled into a place where starting to expand our family worked. The transition is as many say, truly life changing, but also as many say, I wouldn't trade it for anything. Maybe it was my training in caring for newborns that took the edge off and prepared me for the initial newborn/infant stages of caring for my own children, or maybe it was just a role that came easy to me, but initially I felt motherhood suited me & filled me with a larger sense of purpose than before. With my first, I cut my hours to a part time position, employed my mom to watch my son, and life was good. After my second son, a late preterm love who rocked my world joined our family, I decided to officially become a stay at home mom. I finally had all I had ever wanted growing up. I had the "job," a family I adored, a dedicated husband, and our little piece of land in the suburbs to call home. But this was where I began my quiet struggle. It may sound odd, but the transition to a full-time stay at home mom was a much more difficult transition than I initially anticipated. It wasn't just one specific example or defining moment to pin point. Slowly, in the midst of momming, wifeing, and living the day to day, my own identity got lost. I know this is a normal progression, and even anticipated it happening, but the day you wake up and realize you don't even know who you are anymore is a scary. With time, a lot of tears and come to Jesus moments, I found myself again. I found the balance in being a better wife, mom and all around person. I started new routines that nourished my soul & I finally lost that excess baby weight I'd been holding on to. While different, my body began to somewhat resemble my pre-baby self. More importantly, I felt like I started to enjoy each day for what it brought, rather than passing hours checking off a never ending "to-do" list.
Emily Ley's book does a great job helping you pin point what is important in your life; It doesn't tell you exactly what to think or feel, but her honest voice helps you look into yourself to discover simple answers. Her life and mind are very different, but in many ways, we were similar. She humanizes what people perceive to be the best times of your life, when you're feeling they aren't.
If you're looking for an easy read, a great eye opener and something to give you the kick in the butt you need to get your act together, I highly recommend A Simplified Life by Emily Ley! Be sure to click the image below to get your copy ASAP! Then be sure to check back & share any additional thoughts !
the most basic suburban .....
We are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites.